48 Life Lessons at age 48

So, I have managed to complete another year! What a ride!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to me! 😂

Chapter 47 was quite possibly one of the MOST challenging years of my life (so far), though I think I say that every year!!!
But truthfully, it was the year of struggle and change, all the hospital visits, Thomas going into the RAF, the business challenges, the people who have come into my life but also the people I have removed and of course those who have voluntarily left – it has been a rollercoaster!
But thank you, as every element both positive and negative has contributed to me being where I am right now and I feel nothing but appreciation and gratitude in a world that is losing its head I think I have just about managed to keep mine!

So, I wanted to share a post I have been writing for the last month, many of the  points I have made before but their significance is timeless and well worthy of a reminder!

They are in no particular order but I hope you enjoy. Let me know which one resonates most –

  1. Discipline will take you places motivation never will.
    Motivation comes and goes; discipline keeps you moving forwards.
  2. You are never too old to set a new goal.
    At 48, I still have big ambitions – and I intend to chase them.
  3. Black belt was never the destination.
    There is always another level to reach, both in martial arts and in life.
  4. Consistency beats intensity.
    Small actions repeated for years create extraordinary results.
  5. Your health is an investment.
    Everything has an ROI, looking after your body and mind becomes increasingly important as the years pass.
  6. Sometimes you have to rebuild.
    Injuries, setbacks and disappointments don’t have to be the end of the story.
  7. Surround yourself with good people.
    The people around you influence your standards, attitude and direction.
  8. Not everyone needs to understand your vision.
    If you believe in it, keep building.
  9. Success rarely happens in a straight line.
    There will be detours, mistakes and difficult periods.
  10. Confidence is built through action.
    You don’t wait until you’re confident – you do difficult things until confidence develops.
  11. Travel changes your perspective.
    Experiencing different countries, cultures and people teaches lessons no classroom can replicate.
  12. Never stop being a student.
    The moment you believe you know everything is the moment you stop improving.
  13. A great instructor creates people who eventually don’t need them.
    Teaching is about developing independence, not dependence.
  14. Leadership is about responsibility, not status.
    A title means very little if you’re unwilling to lead by example.
  15. Your standards become your reputation.
    Quite simply – protect them.
  16. How you behave when nobody is watching matters.
    Character is built away from applause.
  17. Business will test you in completely different ways to martial arts.
    But discipline, resilience and perseverance transfer remarkably well.
  18. Don’t be frightened of making mistakes.
    Be frightened of repeatedly making the same ones.
  19. Learn to say no.
    Every yes costs you time somewhere else.
  20. Protect your energy.
    Not every argument deserves your participation and not every problem deserves your attention.
  21. You cannot please everyone.
    Trying to do so usually means compromising what you believe in.
  22. Know when to walk away.
    Sometimes strength isn’t holding on – it’s recognising when something no longer deserves your time.
  23. Hard conversations usually become harder when you avoid them.
    Deal with problems early and professionally.
  24. Your business should serve your life – not consume it.
    Growth means little if you lose everything else that matters.
  25. Money matters, but freedom matters more.
    Time, choice and control over your life are incredibly valuable.
  26. Invest in people.
    Helping someone else become successful is one of the most rewarding forms of success.
  27. Celebrate other people’s achievements.
    Someone else’s success doesn’t diminish yours.
  28. Remember where you started.
    Progress is easy to overlook when you’re constantly looking towards the next target.
  29. Don’t compare your chapter 20 with somebody else’s chapter 2.
    Everyone’s journey is different.
  30. Age changes how you train, not why you train.
    Train intelligently, recover properly and keep going.
  31. There is enormous value in doing difficult things voluntarily.
    Challenge develops resilience.
  32. Comfort is enjoyable, but very little growth happens there.
    Occasionally you need to make yourself uncomfortable.
  33. The basics still matter.
    Whether it’s Taekwondo, business or life, people often search for complicated answers while neglecting fundamentals.
  34. Preparation creates confidence.
    When you’ve done the work, pressure becomes easier to handle.
  35. The toughest opponent is usually yourself.
    Your doubts, excuses and limiting beliefs can defeat you long before anybody else does.
  36. Children remember how you made them feel, lead by example in both your words and actions
    Coaching young people, like parenting, carries a responsibility far greater than just kicks and punches – if you know you know 😉
  37. Martial arts, like life, is really about developing people.
    Technique gets someone through the door, but being a good role model and mentor builds confidence, character and a belonging that can change lives
  38. Build something that can exist beyond you.
    Real leadership creates the next generation of leaders.
  39. Be proud of your achievements without becoming satisfied.
    Gratitude for the past and ambition for the future can coexist.
  40. Don’t postpone everything until “one day.”
    There isn’t an unlimited supply of tomorrows or ‘I’ll start on Mondays’
  41. Spend time with the people who matter.
    Business opportunities return. Some moments and people don’t.
  42. Take more photographs.
    Ordinary days eventually become important memories – capture the moment
  43. Tell people you appreciate them.
    Don’t assume they already know.
  44. Your response matters more than the setback.
    You can’t control everything that happens, but you can control what you do next.
  45. Success means more when you bring people with you.
    Watching others grow because you helped create an opportunity is incredibly rewarding.
  46. Leave things better than you found them.
    A school, business, organisation, relationship or simply someone’s day.
  47. Keep going Beyond All Boundaries.
    Keep learning, challenging yourself, helping others and refusing to allow age – or anything else – to decide what you’re capable of.
  48. There is still plenty of time to achieve something extraordinary.
    48 isn’t a finishing line – far from it, just watch the next 12 months

And perhaps the biggest lesson…

I haven’t got everything figured out – and that’s OK.

At 48 I’m still learning, still making mistakes, still changing, still setting goals and still discovering what I’m capable of.

And perhaps that’s exactly how life should be. 🥋❤️🖤

 

Much Love & Respect x

strong than yesterday

‘stronger than yesterday’

Quality workout today with Thomas aka camera man and son 😂
We got chatting on the value of exercise, healthy habits and the impact of good people in our lives, and bad ones too!
The inquisitive nature of the convo gave me goose bumps #prouddad and it got me thinking.

It has been a tough year so far in so many ways, battling personal injuries, house move don’t mention it😏, business challenges, self doubt (yes me self doubt 😂) and more!!

zero excuses given, zero sympathy required and zero apologies made

We have persevered and are smashing this year so far! 💪🏻
Be confident enough to make decisions and necessary changes quickly but thoughtfully, believe in yourself and those around you as it is a lonely journey by yourself, be consistent not forgetting the struggles are where the successes are truly earned 😉

Much love & respect as always x

PS – I am not posting for this for the likes, I am posting in hope that maybe just one person will take the time to read it, get fired up and pass the positivity forwards – together we all grow

life gets better by change

‘your life doesn’t get better by chance – it gets better by change’

I have had numerous conversations over the last couple of days highlighting a point I have written about before but it is most definitely worth revisiting 🤔
Whether you know it or not, everything has a potential ROI (return on investment) and I am not talking about the monetary aspect.
Ever felt empowered after spending time with certain people, ready to take action and level up whereas others seem to steal your time, energy and generally just made you feel crap 😏
Chose who you give your time and energy to, don’t be an arse about it, just understand everyone has a role to play and value to bring so position people accordingly.
Remember the ability to make change is in your hands, you are just one small step and decision away from something completely different, very often even subtle amendments can have an impact beyond comprehension.
So be bold, be brave, don’t be afraid to make decisions, make changes but above all be true to yourself …
I believe in you, you got this!
Much love & respect as always x
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On a side note and because it was discussed this week, have you ever heard of the butterfly effect?
Or perhaps you are more familiar with the power of the compounding – if not it is definitely worth taking a look with a number of good books I could recommend by a similar title.

Thank me later 😉

protect your energy

Had a couple of hours in the gym this morning and it got me thinking ‘protect your energy at all costs’
… energy affects so many things, mood and vibe, how you think, communicate, exercise, sleep and to be fair, for me, productivity as a whole.
Don’t allow anyone to steal it unnecessarily, to use or abuse it – yes I know, easier said than done!
Rather, be sure to focus & build it with a view to share it with those who you care about most and those who truly value you for being you!
Much love & respect as always x

The Paradox of our Time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider roads, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

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5 best investments you can make

As a small business owner and martial artist it is way too easy to neglect yourself, I know as I have been there!

Your focus and time is often more on the growth and development of your students and clients which of course in itself is not a bad thing but when it comes at a long term cost / effects of neglecting yourself, you need to ensure at some point to take a step back, take a look and plan for you!

 

Here are just 5 things I would consider to be essential for your long-term success.

1 . Invest in your knowledge – educate yourself

  •  – Read, develop depth of understanding and knowledge, become an authority in your field
  •  – Struggling for time? Listen to podcasts whilst travelling or working out at the gym, it is very easy these days to gain further knowledge from literally the most senior established people in the world
  •  – Youtube videos offer similar learning opportunities though obviously you have to sit down and watch rather than listen
  •  – Get a mentor, this is why I insist you all have an instructor for guidance in the martial arts but also in business and life

 

‘Educate and Act’

Make sure you take action on the knowledge gained

 

2. Invest in your health … ‘3 legged stool concept’ – miss one of the 3 legs and the balance has lost

  •  – EXERCISE – Regularity of your own exercise, gauging intensity and focus depending on the performance required or end result
  •  – NUTRITION – Balanced diet and nutritional plan will not only refuel but help rebuild the body
  •  – RECOVERY – Rest and recovery so that your body and mind has the opportunity to rebuild and avoid injury

 

‘Learn and Do’

Learn how to listen to your body, know when to rest, know when to work

 

3. Invest in your team

You can’t do it all by yourself and to scale you need the best people – ‘your net worth is your network’ … and I am not just talking financially so –

  •  – Build strong relationships
  •  – Promote cohesion within your group of people, remove people who are unwilling to work and adapt – you will be thankful over time!
  •  – Delegate roles and help them grow
  •  – Continually develop their skill, knowledge & experience as well as opportunities to progress

 

‘Leadership is a lonely place, be sure to take people with you’

 

4. Invest in a decent task management system & commit to taking action

  •  – In my opinion there is no such thing as time management, it is task management, we all have the same number of minutes and hours in a day, you simply need to prioritise tasks and make appropriate steps towards achieving the things that are of most value to you
  •  – ‘to do’ lists work but I started doing a ‘want to’ do list first, I get some of my favourite things done and I carried the momentum into the essential ‘to do’ list and have a far more productive day
  •  – Are you a little bit more techy? Ever used Monday.com? There are many online task management systems, certainly if you have a large team and tasks to complete, Monday.com is a great one!

 

5. Invest money in positive cash-flowing assets, preferably passive ie PROPERTY

  •  – Create multiple income streams and ensure future wealth creation
  •  – Safe guard against loss of income eg injuries, sickness as well as of course planning for your older age
  •  – There are other asset classes, I have multiple businesses as well as stocks and shares but due to ‘gearing’ the property is significantly out performing the stocks and requires far less work than the businesses!
  •  – Remember an investment can go down as well as up but if you maintain a ‘buy and hold’ strategy with property you will win over time, note do your due diligence prior to purchasing. The main benefits of property is that it is almost passive income certainly if you have it managed plus you potentially get 2 income streams rental return and capital appreciation

 

I advise you to speak to you accountant and qualified property tax advisor

 

Yes the last 2 we a little heavy but I am sure you can understand their value and inclusion!

 

On a serious note and in closure, over time your physical techniques, skills and the wonderful benefits of youth will disappear, but you will gain so much more in the way of experience, wisdom and knowledge, well most of us … be sure to embrace the changes, take action and don’t be afraid to invest in you!

 

 

Respect as always

 

Master John Swift

‘train smart, train hard’

Small things make a big difference

Small things make such a big difference, here are some good things to live by –

1. Never shake someone’s hand sitting down.
2. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
3. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
4. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. For me the stairs are not one.
5. Where possible, request the late check-out.

6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of fuel.
9. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
10. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
11. Eat well but don’t fill up on bread.

12. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
13. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.
14. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
15. Experience the serenity of travelling alone.
16. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
17. Never turn down a breath mint.
18. A good shirt and jacket is worth 1000 words.
19. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
20. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
21. Eat lunch with the new kid.
22. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
23. Ask your dad to play, he’ll never let you win.
24. Open doors for people.
25. Give credit. Take the blame.
25. Write down your dreams.
26. Thank a veteran as they gave their yesterday so that we can have our today
27. Say ‘Thank you for your service’ to fire fighters, police officers, ambulance service and military personnel for their commitment to helping make us stay safe and healthy.
28. Be proud of your efforts and accomplishments, but don’t get cute.
29. When the truth is delivered with respect, how the other person responds is their deal.
30. If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
31. Know how to: change your oil, fix a sink, save to invest your money and be the hero in an argument (calm it down).
32. You are 100% responsible for your own life.
33. Patience is a virtue, but slow feet don’t eat.
34. Understand the balance of confidence and humility.
35. Remember life is precious & short so make everyday count

The path of a martial arts instructor

The path of a martial arts instructor, if you are not careful, can become a somewhat lonely one, here are some considerations –

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  • Stay active yourself

Many instructors substitute training time for teaching, it is inevitable to a degree what with super busy lifestyles but in my opinion a fit, healthy instructor is a sharp instructor on the mats, so stay on top form, practice and set a good example to your students

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